Today was Valentine's Day. I generally like Valentine's Day as a holiday, despite the social pressure to be in love and do something incredibly romantic with your sweetie (or, better yet, have your sweetie do something incredibly romantic FOR you). Anyway, I'm all about the cookies and the Valentines and the chocolates, and telling people that you love them. All good stuff.
But today was a rough day. It started at about 1:00am, with Martin's phone ringing very loudly (wrong number). Phone rang loudly again at 5:00am (Martin's alarm clock), followed by my phone ringing two hours later at 7:00am (my alarm clock). Peter, who crept into our bed some time before the first wake-up call, slept through all of this, thank god. But I, sandwiched between a snoring, wriggling child and a fat, hot, furry cat, did not.
Thankfully, I managed to get Peter to pre-school at a respectable time for once, although I was unable to persuade him to eat any breakfast besides the candy stick and candy bug I had gotten him for Valentine's Day. He was a little keyed up when we arrived. Sorry, pre-school. I showed up again an hour after I had dropped him off, just in time for the Valentine's Day party. It took me about an hour and a half of waiting for the other parents to arrive to realize that the party was for kids only. Well, at least I got to meet some of Peter's little buddies, and help the teachers out with some of the party games. Yes, I was embarrassed.
In the afternoon, my thoughts turned to how I might make this evening special for Peter and me. My dear husband is away in San Francisco tonight, so champagne followed by a wild night in downtown Nevada City was out of the question. For me, special equals fabulous dessert, but Peter had already ingested WAY more sugar than he was used to, so I crossed that idea off as an invitation to disaster. Going with the food as love theme, I did, however, make the effort to prepare a delicious dinner for the two of us, from a favorite recipe that I found on a fellow mama's blog: Teriyaki salmon with vegetables and brown/wild rice, topped with a spicy yogurt sauce and Asian slaw. Mmmmmm. Lots of garlic.
Later in the afternoon, I checked the mail box, in hopes of finding a cheery red envelope from someone who loves me, or at least loves Peter, but all I found was a package for Martin (no doubt containing some sort of airplane part) and a letter from our insurance company. Not very romantic.
Just before leaving to pick up Peter, my day started to look up. A very sweet woman dropped off a lovely bunch of flowers from my dear husband. Awwww. Sadly, the warm fuzzy feeling didn't last.
We arrived home from pre-school and brought Valentines and cookies to our neighbors. The husband was preparing oysters Rockefeller and steak for his beautiful wife. That sounded pretty good to me. Back at our house, Peter wanted attention: "Mom, play with me!" So we sat, and opened Valentines from pre-school, for about a minute and a half, when his mood shifted: "Mom, go make dinner." Gee, thanks.
Peter is in a new stage, in which he offers a running commentary (almost always negative) on whatever it is he is doing. The commentary is interspersed with demands that range in tone from matter of fact to operatic. For instance, on the topic of our carefully and lovingly prepared dinner:
Peter: What this, mom?
Me: It's YUMMY salmon with delicious vegetables and rice! You love salmon.
Peter: I don't like this. I don't like salmon. I want milk. I want treat.
Me: You've had lots of treats already today, Peter. Try some salmon!
Peter: I don't like salmon. I don't like this. I don't like this, mom (dropping pieces of the $16.00/lb wild-caught salmon off the edge of his tray). I want milk.
Me: Please don't drop food on the floor. If you don't like it, just put it on your tray.
[Peter continues to drop pieces of salmon onto the floor.]
Me: Try some cauliflower -- it's like broccoli, but white.
Peter: I don't like cauliflower. I want all done, mom. I don't like this. I don't like salmon.
Me: [sigh of exasperation]
At this point I need to take a break and think of the things I am thankful for today:
1) Pre-school. Thank goodness for the competent, warm, loving group of women who take care of my son three days a week. It makes me a better mother.
2) A phone call from my parents. They still love me!
3) Flowers from my dear husband -- awww, he made an effort!
4) A text message from my friend Chris that came at just the right time. Yay!
5) And lastly, the e-cards that we received from Kristina, Dave and Beth, and Uncle Bill. It's the thought that counts -- thank you!
And now I hear noises coming from the refrigerator, which carry potential for much destruction and a very large mess. At least I get to spend the evening with someone I love more than anything. And a large glass of red wine.
Happy Valentine's Day everyone!